Summer Office Style Ideas

Summer Office Style Ideas

Lightweight maxi. Think thin with this. Thick is NEVER good – go for cotton or lightweight material. Don’t go for materials that make you sweat like silk or chiffon. ALTHOUGH – I did purchase an adorable silk maxi (Tibi in photo, cannot find mine online anywhere but it was only $89!) this summer that I am super excited to wear for a special occasion.

NEVER go to work without a sweater, cardigan or light jacket because of potentially freezing conditions from Air Conditioners due to people who sweat. Just keep this in the closet in case. 🙂

Keep an umbrella in your desk & at home.

And always remember to replace it when you remove it for the rain. Totally SUCKS to be caught in the rain when you aren’t wearing cut-off shorts and a tank at the beach with your besties! (So cute, BTW) but for the weekendsssss! Fave umbrella from Soul.

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Conservative/Dressy Sandals

Wear flip flops and get fired – simple as that. NEVER OK (in my opinion). I have seen some dressy thong sandals that are OK to wear possibly? (Depends on how casual your office is… I can wear them at my office for sure, I just don’t).

J. Crew Rio Metallic Sandals
J. Crew Rio Metallic Sandals

Even like the “sneakers with really cute dresses” has been HUGE right now. I’m embrace this look constantly because I absolutely LOVE it… (Post to follow).

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Generally speaking – plain black sleeveless dresses are a fabulous bet.

Never out of style, no matter the season! These pieces can be moved from season to season quite easily with the right accessories. Think a piece of antique jewelry, light flowing/patterned scarves, sandals and cross-body bags to dress up your plain staple dress.

Dresses – not too short for work! Depends on your outfit and again, how dressy/casual/corporate your office is.

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Zara.com – Major sales right now!!
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Zara, again. Just wore this to a dinner but can be great for work with a sweater or blazer. LOVE.

Def check out Zara‘s summer sale going on right now – amazing outfits for work!

Shorts – If you are brave enough to go here and your office allows this – it MUST be styled properly! Cut-offs?! – NONONO! Tailored, with a cuff or pleats are perfect. Black is always OK. Tasteful simple patterns in neutrals are also on point.

Printed Soft Shorts – Working in Fashion?!(sorta…) – LOVING THESE! So comfy – I gotten away with these with a blazer at work. Do this for SURE.

Working in an office with primarily women, I have the pleasure of seeing everyone’s unique and awesome sense of style. Edgy and clean, simple and crisp, easy yet detailed, intricate and planned perfection. The stylists and buyers that come into our showroom are my favorite thing about my new position. Even people watching in Soho – some people can literally make the most random pieces pulled together so freakin’ chic.

Sidenote: BLOWDRYING your hair is basically a waste of time in the humid city of New York. Easy hair tutorials to come in future posts. Look for them soon!

Summer is a great time to experiment with your wardrobe and try some new trends out so go get it girrrrrrrrrl.

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Does Anybody Else feel this way? Am I alone on this, or what?!

I legit do not know what I wanna do in my life. How dramatic of me but…Like – how do you know what you like or what you’re good at? I feel like I need to do my own thing. Which is what…? I do not know yet.

Everything will fall into place, eh? I guess so.

Ugh – I just don’t know. I’m currently in a weird stage where I feel like I’m trying to be something I’m not. But I don’t even know what I should be.

Do you ever feel like that?

Dreams of working in the city have come to life and I’m beyond grateful to hold a job in a creative & growing industry.  And network with people as well as be a part of something totally different than what I’m used to. I do feel like I should have done what I’m doing now, much earlier in my life. Now I’m 25 & I’m brand new somewhere.  SO here I go – facing the facts – I’m not going to be doing anything exciting or amazing yet…OBVIOUSLY. But I keep wondering to myself…when is the amazing stuff?!

Maybe I’m being too hard on myself or I’m having too high of expectations. I AM the new girl after all – but it’s because I’m displaced. When you experience a lot of success at a very young age (high level management at 22 years old- yeah, weird) – it is a strange feeling to accept a role that has a different status of responsibility- even if it means changing industries and getting my feet wet somewhere totally different.

I feel like I’m far behind the curve on many levels. Many of my peers are in relationships & getting married, having children and have great jobs that they’ve advanced in over the past 5+ years. And I’m just like alone and starting over and trying to be in NYC but idk if that is really even where I should be or what I should be doing. I feel legit so weird about myself right now. Like I know it’s exactly where I want to be and where I belong. But I’m doing it totally solo so I’m constantly imagining things being different. Like if I had a boyfriend I would hang out with him after work. (Do I even want that?) But instead I just get on the train and go home. Get home late. Wake up at 5:30AM and get back on the train for work. Rinse. Repeat.

This is what finding yourself is all about. If you think this is a complaint then get over yourself and click the X of this screen because it’s really just me thinking out loud and wondering if other people feel this way?

People I know are either tied down or exceptionally busy (SOML) and it makes me feel weird. I feel like a 22 year old stuck inside a 25 year old’s mentality. And it’s bizarre. I guess I’m going to keep dating until I find Prince Charming. Expect ridiculous stories to come from that shit as well. Literally haven’t even been going out in NYC which must change immediately so I can expand my social circle. Also drain my bank account (oof). I don’t know what to do at this point.

Make that money in the meantime, live well, travel often, spend enjoy time with friends, family & people you love as frequently as possible, shop a lot, look pretty. A bestie once told me that her goal is to never leave the house without looking like Blake Lively. That’s a pretty steep goal, but nonetheless a really exceptional goal. I’m going to try it ——– until it’s Monday morning at 6:00 am and I’m late because I didn’t wake up early enough & shitttttttt.

But, as I have always said:

“That’s the beauty of this life…”

…you can do whatever you want. Whenever you want. There are no rules.

Don’t Ask Me That…

People ask me the most ridiculous questions about my disease…

“I heard cinnamon cures diabetes…”
“Doesn’t cranberry cure it? Or it helps, right?”
“You can’t eat this right?” (points to cupcake they’re about to shove in their mouth)
“Wow. You give YOURSELF shots?” (As if I have somebody else to do this…)
“Does it hurt?” (Yes, asshole. I mean only sometimes).
“Did you get it from eating a lot of candy?”  Nope, but LOVE candy.
“What happens when you drink?” (I get drunk). “You can’t really do anything, right?” (Ummm, we clearly aren’t friends…)
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NO GUYS – in fact, I am not a typical basic betch. I’m sort of just a normal ish (psycho) girl over here dealing with/coping with/owning the SHIT out of Type 1 Diabetes. I’ve been blessed screwed with this awful disease since I was 14 and I wish every single day that I was a basic betch. That is the biggest fucking lie of my entire career as a human being. But I do REALLY get annoyed with not being able to starve myself OR better, eat ice cream without feeling the guilt that normal people have to feel from it PLUS the fact that my blood sugar is going to be high for like 2 hours following and I’m going to feel like shit. And it’s much worse than feeling like shit for you lactose intolerant people – so I do not feel bad for you.
Or maybe I’ll feel totally fine… up to YOU, universe. LIVE ON. Go ahead, ask me a question… (keep apple juice on standby though).

Watches

Transitioning…

I wanted a very plain gold watch. So after avidly searching online (about 3 hours and the opinion of a straight guy who could totally care less…) I found this Nixon Metal Time Teller watch.

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Nixon is kinda “surfer” – not exactly my “style” – but what exactly is my style? What is style at all? Anything you want it to be!

There is such an actual NEED and DESIRE in my life for “different” watches. I’m talking something at a great price point that isn’t so “tat”-y like DKNY, or Michael Kors. Obviously – done. Everyone has that so I’m always searching for something different. Re-inventing the wheel or in this case “re-inventing the watch” has been done, there’s all types of weird shit out there… I mean – how much different can you make a timepiece look?

But I’m looking for something just different in a sense that isn’t as pricey as Rolex, Audemars, Michele, Cartier, Montblanc. Because I’m not loaded even though I sometimes act like I am. I also sometimes act like a ratchety broke-ass. Ahem.

And the real reason that I wrote this post about watches is because my Michele has been at the manufacturer being fixed/polished and it’s been there for like 3 weeks which is far too long and I needed something else…

Put on a watch, it will change your entire persona, guaranteed!

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Simple is really what it’s all about. And then I do shit like this…Not simple. AT. ALL. oops.

 

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Yumi Kim Bracelet, Nixon Time Teller Watch, kate space bracelet

The Apology

“It’s a shame that at some point people developed the belief that apologies make you look weak.” – LD

Sometimes Facebook inspires me. I know, right?! Who AM I? But this quote really struck me and as soon as I read it my mind started moving – a million miles a minute.

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Apologizing is really difficult. There are times where I should have apologized or excused myself but I failed to do so because I felt like I looked dumb. I’m afraid this happens to a lot of us and we’re too afraid to admit it.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am by no means “team sorry” at all. Too many “I’m sorry’s” turns it into a meaningless statement that nobody appreciates or believes.

When people say “I’m sorry” as a form of endearment (vomit), I literally would prefer to rip their heads off their skulls than ever listen to their voice again…
Example:
Me: (complaining voice) “I don’t know what to do on Saturdaaaaaaay.”
Rando: “I’m sorry.”
Me: face of disgust (I’m not going to give you the feeling of accomplishment by saying “you don’t need to be sorry – nothing you did” because OBVIOUSLY! Like duh it’s not your fault. Why don’t you have a conversation instead of that closed ended response of I’m sorry. Ugh don’t speak to me ever I’m walking away now – bye.
“Yeah.”

Thanks for nothing, bro.

Apologizing has gotten the stigma of making people look weak. Especially in the workplace.

In families and intimate relationships, I’m sorry is a statement that gets overused and abused. Or worse, not used at all.

You expect your parents to do so much for you and they have done a lot for you since your birth YET you get frustrated and annoyed with them and forget to say please and thank you. Or apologize for when you forget. Even friends or boyfriends & girlfriends take the brunt of the over-apology, the non-apology, the fake-apology or the no-apology-at-all.

At work or with superiors is where I feel the apology has taken a back seat. As an employee, you don’t want to feel like a major IDIOT so you don’t apologize. You don’t want to let your boss think that you are making excuses. Which maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. However – it’s all in the presentation.

Boss: “You missed this entire report it should have been sent out yesterday. Now it won’t be there in time and we’re going to be in deep shit!”

Wrong response #1: Oops, Sorry!
Wrong response #2: (Do nothing & slowly scurry back to your desk).
Wrong response #3: Well, ya see – the reason why I didn’t do that is because I was waiting for Johnny to give me the correct answer and he didn’t respond to any of my emails.

Correct response: I apologize for not being thorough and completing this. I’ll work on it immediately and get it out by courier today so to will arrive immediately. Anything else that you’d suggest?

Bottom line is – be aware of your words and take initiative to face your mistakes and overcome them by apologizing for what was wrong in the situation.

Go back to your roots! By that I mean, Pre-School! I also need to get back to my roots meaning my roots specialist aka hair girl, because they’re in desperate need of some TLC.

In the meantime, Say you’re Sorry’s, Thank You’s and Your Welcome’s! Please do not believe that an apology makes you weak – WORK it, MAKE it, DO it, makes us Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger. -Kanye ❤

How To Tackle: Marshall’s or TJ Maxx or Nordstrom Rack

Store’s like Marshall’s & TJ Maxx are great for a few things – basics & trends you don’t want to spend a lot of money on.

Basics like black shirts, black dresses, black anything, OBV. White t-shirts, random work clothes? Not your jeans, probably. Current trends maybe like pastels, or like mules. It’s also perfect for disposable clothing or “going out clothes.” Shitty tops or dresses that you’ll wear once because you can only wear something out once, basically. But you don’t really mind because it was under $30, better yet, under $20 so who really cares?! But you’ll actually receive a bunch of complements on this crap, leading you to re-purpose this low quality piece of crap purchase probably several times. WIN, WIN!

Step 1: Be mentally prepared. Don’t go in thinking exactly what you’re looking for is going to be there. It’s not. Actually, exactly what you don’t need but have a crush on will be there. Nice and expensive.

*TIP*: Know your budget before you enter. If you have $100 to spend – know that. Know what you’re searching for. And if you have an open mind – just try to stick to your budget. That is why you’re shopping at Marshall’s now, isn’t it?

Step 2: Drink coffee or tea beforehand, so you’re alert. And not sleepy. And can move quickly in front of the snoozers (old ladies, 30-somethings with baby strollers, bratty menacing children).

*TIP*: Go early in the morning. Be the first person to enter when the doors open. To avoid: “the snoozers.”

Step 3: First round of try-on’s – grab 2 sizes (if available). Do a full sweep of the store. You’ll learn that I never commit to anything until I’ve seen everything at least once. AKA – doing a sweep or a full lap. I do this at bars for certain, but I also do this while shopping. Never fully commit until you’ve seen it all.

Step 4: Be prepared to give away all of your prized possessions (other than clothing that can be tried on) to the dressing room attendant. This means shoes, belts, bags, any other random objects that you picked up along the way. If it’s a Home Goods/Marshall’s – you’re fucked. Don’t even look at the Home Goods stuff until you’ve finished with your Marshall’s try-on’s.

Step 5: Wear easily changeable clothing. Dresses are great – slip on shoes like ballet flats or sandals are perfect. Less that you have to take off and put back on the better!

Step 6: Divide & conquer. Decide what is a “Must Have,” a “Maybe” and a “Definitely Not.” Put them in piles or on different hooks in the fitting room. Separate and get ready to leave the dressing room for round # 2.

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Definitely – Like this!
Nope! Doesn't Fit! Don't Like. Sorry Charlie!!!
Nope! Doesn’t Fit! Don’t Like. Sorry Charlie!!!

Step 7: Give the attendant your Def Not’s – hang on to your maybe’s and must have’s. Do one more lap around the store to find anything else that you may have missed or things to go with the items that you’re deciding to purchase.

Step 8: Hit the dressing room again if necessary (but literally, try to avoid this so you don’t risk thoughts of suicide).

Step 9: Get the fuck outta there! Hit up the line as soon as humanly possible because in any moment you’re going to have a severe anxiety attack, as you’ve been in this disorganized crazy store for over 30 minutes. Being that you planned ahead and went early or late night (prime shopping hours), the line should not be very long. While waiting in line, decide how you’re going to pay for your purchases and have your form of payment basically ready to go.

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CRAZINESS!

Step 10: Be nice to the cashier, pay for your shit and leave the premises. Breathe the fresh air in the parking lot like it’s your last breath of air on this earth. You’ve made it through, girl. You fucking did it. You’ve conquered Marshall’s / TJ Maxx – and you’re still alive. And you purchased something to wear for tonight or tomorrow night. Good freakin’ job, girl! Congratulations. You now deserve a cocktail so head home and immediately pour one.

Tiny Tea

If you know me AT ALL, you know that I’ll basically try anything once. Especially something that will “improve” my health. If it’s expensive? BRING IT TO ME, NOW. I’ve learned a few lessons with regard to expensive health treatments… $8,000 later. I’m in the same exact boat that I was last year plus 10 lbs. GREAT, Ash. Great.

Anyway – I’m obsessed with tea. Drink it every single day since I fake gave up on coffee. Which means I “stopped drinking it” – which REALLY means that I still drink it whenever I want, but I 99% of the time will always choose tea over coffee if I’m in a coffee shop. Unless coffee is the only option (and I need caffeine, or somebody is offering and I feel obligated). That’s how you fake give up on something.

Tiny Tea is an all-natural tea that also comes in Gluten Free – who knew tea even had gluten? but OK! They sell it in different packs – 14 day teatox for $35.00, 28 day teatox for $55. (I obviously used a coupon code to get a discount on this bad boy). Some people think I’m insane for spending that much $ on tea but they’re actually idiots because I know a Chinese man who spends over $800.00 on green tea that lasts him about a month. He’s CRAZY! But that tea sure is amazing – TRUST.

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The goal of the Tiny Teatox is to decrease bloating, detox your body and replenish your intestines back to their natural state. It claims to be great for energy, clear up your skin and an herbal cleanse without any laxative effect. You drink it 30 minutes before each meal. I drink a ton of tea so I didn’t really mind this at all. It kind of helps curb your appetite and it also tastes pretty normal which is a HUGE PLUS!

OBVI repping my “MALE TEARS” mug ❤ obsessed.

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Get OVER It.

I’ve literally told people to “Get Over It” from the moment I could speak. I need to “Get Over It” myself at times. The phases of a breakdown are very extreme. Everything is fine one moment and then the next it seems like the world is actually ending. No, actually. But here’s how you “Get Over It.”

#FBF if I've ever seen one. <3
#FBF if I’ve ever seen one. ❤

This is what goes on…

Freak the F Out

This step is so black and white. You need to get over your initial shock and anger and fear and upset feelings. You literally throw a temper tantrum and get it all out of your system. Sometimes you need to go for a run, CRY, drink a lot of wine, CRY, pout, frown, sing a song, CRY a little more. Whatever it is that you do – it needs to be done.

Come Down

Now it’s time to take a shower, light a candle, take off your makeup, put your feet up. You’ve actually got to calm yourself down and begin removing the stress from your life through meditative practice.

Wardrobe

Dress in all black so that your outfit matches your current state of “dark soul.” Maybe dark grey – maybe. Play it safe and stick with black. You did just have a very traumatic day, after all.

Find yourself, quickly!

Do something to make yourself feel a LOT better. I know it may be your “fault” or you possibly could have done the wrong thing somewhere along the line. Regardless of the situation, I think you should do something positive for yourself to realign the stars of happiness and positivity. This is probably where my shopping problem comes into serious effect. Have a bad day? Go shopping. Have a great day? Go shopping. Have an average day? Go shopping. Have a major freak out session and have no clue what to do, and you’ve been crying for like 3 hours? Get a green tea, go online shopping.

Get a plan together and begin to accept.

No matter what, whatever happened has already happened. It’s time to accept what happened and analyze why it happened. This is where you really learn from your mistakes or rather, your experiences. I don’t tend to think of the bad things that happen as mistakes. Everything happens for reasons in your life – sometimes they suck. But I believe it’s difficult to look back at the sucky situations and say that you have not learned something. I bet you have – even if it was to “never do that again.”

 

After that –

you should sit back and have a cocktail. STAT.

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As of Late

The recent months have been among the best and most healthy times in my emotional life. (UGH, this blog is going to be annoying – I can tell already). Getting to know myself – really, really well. By myself. Loving myself. Learning about myself. Narcissistic, much? 

Being single is grounds for gaining a significant amount of knowledge – about none other than, yourself.

Change is one of the scariest and challenging times in this beautiful life. Going for new things. I’m about that life. Change is a beautiful thing.

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This week I embarked upon a brand new journey. I started working in NYC. I left my job of eleven (yes, that’s right 11! years). I honestly have not really left – I can’t leave something that’s THAT good. I am however, changing careers. I want to do something different, explore new and exciting territory. I don’t like weddings and that’s what my career was specialized in. Why work in an industry that you don’t love? If you don’t even love love?! Definite time for a change. A change in love. A love for myself – which is developing stronger and stronger as I type (lolz).

Considering myself an extremely loyal person – I will never let anybody tell me differently. This quote kind of struck me funny – I really am starting to see my “disloyal” changes as self-loving. I’m kind of really into the things that I’m loving right now.

I’m no longer into being unloved, being surrounded by people who don’t need me, or by people who don’t care about me to the fullest. Venturing out into the deep blue sea because I would really rather do that. I’m a firm believer of throwing myself into situations that are not comfortable. Hell – I do that every day of my life. I’m trying to teach myself that it’s better to feel uncomfortable for 8 seconds than to feel uncomfortable for years on end. Small bits of uncomfortable situations are worth it. They’re great for human growth. Starting to leave what has left me. Ready for what the unknown has to offer.

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 I LOVE this image.