1. Don’t ever tell anyone they look tired.
This is rough. Just remember that you have no idea what a person is going through at the very moment that you come in contact with them. You think they look tired, but that may just be how they look. Showing up somewhere hungover, okay…. Not even. But this is probably the biggest insult you can give another human being. I spend hundreds of $ per month on eye cream because some 75 year old prick told me “I looked tired” every morning when he saw me at 6:45AM when I was 19 years old. Thanks for that, dude.
2. Help people, and if you offer to help someone, follow through.
Be there for a person when you say you will be. Trustworthiness is major and it’s ok to go out of your way and never get a pat on the back for it. It’s more than OK to be awesome to somebody else and love every second of it. You Go, Glenn Coco!
3. Be kind to people who work in retail and food service.
Amen. When you’re being served, say please and thank you. When you’re a dick, you aren’t received well and people won’t like you. You get what you give out – firm believer.
4. Let someone know you’re not interested.
This can be harsh but I feel a much higher level of respect for myself after telling a person that although I’m flattered, I don’t want anything further. Also on the other end, (not to my recent experience) it’s much easier to hear a “not interested ,” then the lies and lead-on’s and all that goes along with that.
5. Actually “hang out sometime.”
How many times have you put off hanging out with a friend because it’s a little inconvenient? Because you have to travel across town to get there? Or you may not really want to specifically do what they’re doing? Really? Hey – it’s not as bad as you think, prob. Just do it. You may learn something or meet someone amazing. It’s worth it, trust.
6. Be a little more honest.
Life Motto: Honesty is the best policy. You get in far less trouble when you stay honest with yourself. A selfish thing to say… Obv. But when you’re honest with yourself, the honesty flows throughout your life. Treat others how you want to be treated. I feel like I’m stating kindergarten mottos and life lessons but they are the basics. Work on getting back there. Also, people tend to respect your opinions much more when they know it’s coming from the deep space between your brain and heart. Also it’s fucking simple – no need to make up lies or not tell people things that are necessary.
7. Stop calling each other mean names on the internet.
8. Send more letters (not emails) and gifts.
This requires being thoughtful. Monetary gifts mean close to nothing, whereas a handwritten note and a small meaningful gift really brings the smiles. It’s channeling the “thought that counts” movement. It’s kinda like the “don’t tell me, show me” vibes. Say thank you or hello or “I miss you” with a hand written note. It means so much more than an email or obviously nothing at all. People remember shit like that. And in the future usually will likely return the favor. People surprise you when they have good feelings. Treating someone well can bring very positive response into your future.
9. Give more genuine compliments.
“OMG, love your skirt! Where did you get it?” (That’s the ugliest F-ing skirt I’ve ever seen). – Mean Girls, obvi. If you have nothing nice to say, please just don’t say it at all. Yeah I’m saying this.. I know I sound like a #6 liar, oops. I don’t give compliments out unless I really mean them. Because I believe a firm compliment is much more kind then a random one all the time. Keep it up genuinely. Say what you mean but don’t say it mean.
10. Have more patience while waiting in lines.
No patience. No time. Always late. Always in a rush. I’ll be there in 5 minutes!! Time gets away from us. When things like this happen, practice a random act of kindness. Buy coffee for the person in line behind you. And PAY IT FORWARD!