A fragrance. That is easily you. It’s everybody & anybody.
Glossier outlines the notes in this fragrance below – ambrox, ambrette, iris, musk. It feels like so much more than a fragrance, it’s a feeling. That reminiscent feeling when a scent brings you back to a moment in time. The best time. Let’s go there real quick, ok? It. Will. Grow. On. You. It will also melt. into. your. skin.
At my first deep inhalation, I was shocked. Wowed. Not sure if I loved this. Gave it a minute and inhaled deeply by my wrist for the 2nd, 3rd time… I’m liking this more than I originally thought. It’s kinda sexy, in a non-sexy way.
Hard to describe, but easily appreciated.
The best part about this fragrance, which is very hard to describe is that it smells differently on each and every person that I’ve been around who has worn it. It adaptive and will change with you as you change, throughout the day. I’m for sure liking this scent on myself as the day goes on. You will not be disappointed!!
Tried out Dirty Lemon Detox and Dirty Lemon Skin & Hair. The skin & hair contains marine collagen, so you’re literally drinking the fountain of youth. V cool, however unsure if I saw any results. I got a facial around the same time and changed up some skincare products and my face has gotten generally much clearer and more fresh since September.
The Detox contains activated charcoal and the drink was black so I was also very much into that.
Mainly into this photo because it looks like a Dirty Lemon in the background of the Dirty Lemon.
It’s also a text-based ordering system which seems exclusive AF, so I liked that too. Into this.
A single succulent in a small terra cotta pot sits on each of the hi-top tables. There are two thin, windowsill bar tops and a largely open, clean space with brick walls. The setting is very urban industrial with contemporary vibes. The skylight up above let’s in a beautiful amount of light (I’m obsessed with natural light). It’s a mainly black and white aesthetic with the main way-back wall being a shade of Pepto Bismol pink. I had a Pepto Bismol pink wall in my college townhouse so I felt some weird connection to this room and wall. There’s an open back room with the huge coffee grinder machine (?), which I have no idea what it actually is… troubling. On the barista counter, the coffee grinder is bright pink and the espresso machine is a bright cobalt blue that reminds me of a car from the 1950s.
That unknown machine is loud in the back – sounds and looks like an industrial size vacuum. Whatever it is… It smells awesome in here. I can’t quite focus on anything aside from that noise so maybe this is not the best for concentrating or bringing your laptop. Although a man across from me is doing that.
I’m sipping on a coffee milkshake, which was $6. I would have paid $10 for it because it’s really good. But that’s just because I’m feeling generous today. Milkshakes are my favorite drink too. They serve bialy’s from Roberta’s (a local restaurant in Bushwick that’s super hyped for their pizzas).
Currently in Bushwick – where the cool kids live. Supercrown is probably a really cool date place if you’re the type that dates during the hours of 7AM-7PM. But weekends are an option. And coffee is always good. Back to date night, avoiding alcohol on dates is interesting and challenging so this could be a cool option. Although I’m pretty sure they make alcoholic coffee beverages – which could be a bonus. Lots of cute people are waking by the storefront. And in and out as I’m sitting here. There’s a guy at the bar right now that looks like a mix between Justin Timberlake and the oldest bully brother from from Home Alone. “Buzz your girlfriend, woof.” Weird mix – I know. That’s Brooklyn for ya.
FYI – It’s 11:15am – why did I just drink a milkshake?
An open letter about menstruation. Read further if you dare. If you don’t want to read about a potentially uncomfortable topic I would suggest you stop reading now. Men especially. But women, you’re welcome…maybe? Whatever. Here we go…
A few years ago, one of my BFF’s informed me of a product called “Diva Cup.” Basically, that she started using it and that it is life-changing, once you get used to it. She uses it, has been for quite a while and apparently loves it.
Click the Diva Cup link above or just Google it if you want to learn more about specific details. Basically, Diva Cup is made for females as an alternative to using tampons or pads during menstruation.
It’s a silicone “cup” that you virtually insert inside of yourself and it captures the blood. Benefits are that you can leave it in for up to 12 hours, it’s a 1-time cost of under $30 and lasts for a few years apparently (instead of spending a lot of $ on tampons/pads) and sort of saves the environment (less waste) and your septic systems! Score! Win! Great, I’m interested… let me find out more! Headed straight over to Amazon.com to order this puppy and give it a try… and by heading straight over, I mean I contemplated doing that for approximately 2 years and finally did when I had an Amazon gift card over the summer and was bored because I didn’t have a real job. Whatever…
I tried this product, not one time, not two times, not three times, but FOUR freakin’ times. I think that should suffice as me giving it an actual try… and certainly not just “giving up.” Even though, that is essentially what I did…. every. single. time.
Maybe for some women, Diva Cup is the end-all, be-all solution to menstruation. It does offer some great benefits. The problem with those benefits, are that I don’t exactly give a shit about them. I mean – I tend to be on the eco-conscious side of things in life – however, I don’t really 100% care. Do you? Do you really think that not using tampons is going to save the world? OK, fine if you do. Next, I want my body to be 100% healthy and try not to willingly induce tons of toxins inside of it, but I mean – I’m not 100% convinced that TSS (toxic shock syndrome – from keeping tampons in for too long) would ever even happen to me. I have to switch my tampon far too frequently for that ever to be a problem… so in reality, there is not a specific cause that’s leading me to really want to use this product. So I’m having no or low expectations and just giving it a whirl.
All of my viewpoints are speaking from a “first time user” perspective…. and after the 4th month of trying Diva Cup, I still feel like a “first time user”…. which is already saying something. Yeah, things may get easier and you can get used to it after time passes. But this was not easy to “get used to.”
Inserting Diva Cup is not easy in my opinion, AT ALL. On the instructions paper (yes…) there are 2 diagrams of 2 different techniques to “fold” the cup so that it inserts into your vagina in an easier way. I tried both. Several times. And failed. Several times. It’s also worked. Several times. But then later failed. Several times. (I’ll get into that later…) It’s also bigger than a tampon… when folded. So like, enjoy shoving that up into your vagina. I was considering using lube, but then….what? no, Ashley – bad idea. What? UGH. Didn’t.
If you’re lucky enough to get the insertion correct, GREAT JOB! Woohoo! You got it in and this silicone cup is now up inside of your vagina – score. Basically your vagina eats this thing up and good the fuck luck trying to get that puppy out again…. (those were my first thoughts). But then the instructions go on further… saying, now you must ROTATE this cup 360 degress!UM….. WHAT?!?!
So there’s a little tube looking piece (you can see it in the diagram above) that would compare to a tampon string and would essentially help you remove your cup when you’re ready to do so. But it specifically states on the directions, do not use this to do your 360 degree spin. I tried, they’re right… basically that thing is not going to spin. So you have to reach your fingers inside and squeeze them up against the sides of your vagina to hopefully grab the cup and do a full “spin” of 360 degrees on the cup. On separate occasions I’ve either done the spin, or I’ve avoided the spin. Avoiding is a poor choice. Basically, you have to do the spin so that the cup “unfolds” and slides into the shape of your vagina and so that it can open fully to catch the blood. If you do not spin it could potentially stay sort of folded inside of you and either not open at all to catch or just sort of open and either way you’re going to get MAJOR LEAKAGE. Which IMO is a MAJOR PROBLEM.
Ok, so say if you complete this step (DOUBLE SCORE!) and you have your Diva Cup inserted. You’re a fucking all star if you’ve made it this far. Now starts my rant about the biggest product flaw that I see with this product. I wish I would show you what I mean by this ,so I think I’m going to draw it. So you can see exactly what I’m talking about. Otherwise, it’s confusing. Please hold….
Dude – This is my SOOOOO not technical and obviously NOT TO SCALE diagram. Hand drawn. LMAO — I actually can’t with this one, and I think I’ve truly out-done myself. I can’t believe this is what I think a vagina looks like. I’m probably way wrong, I don’t care though. This is what I want to tell you!!!
The part of the wall of your vagina still has blood on it that is never going to get caught by the Diva Cup because it just will never have the opportunity to. It’s below the Diva Cup opening. Gravity says that this blood will come out of you… so virtually every single time you remove / re-insert your Diva Cup, you’re going to still bleed out that amount of blood.
I would always recommend using a light panty-liner or thin pad each and every time you’re using this product. Which sucks and is a total fucking bummer and completely defeats the purpose of the whole process at all… am I right?
The purpose of a tampon is to avoid wearing a pad / diaper. Keep it all inside so there’s less chance of a mess on the outside. Diva Cup in theory should keep it all inside and let you go for much longer extended periods of time without having to change tampon or have it pushed out if you use the bathroom in any other way…. so that’s cool. Except it does not.
Further, using this product is fucking gross because it gets you DIRTY. For example, when you do use Diva Cup successfully (me, every time). Or say even if you somewhat use it successfully. You eventually finally have to remove it. Removal will be 100% messy and gross. Aside from that, it sort of will sound like suction cup or plunger when you’re removing it. Think about making that noise with a product that’s coming out of your vagina. And immediately you’re going to want to die / vomit. You pull it out of yourself and try not to get blood all over yourself – your hands, your toilet seat, your floor? WTF, not okay. Then it’s going to be a total fucking murder scene. This thing is going to be full of blood, so you then…. dump it out into the toilet. Great. Now there’s excess blood / tissue, whatever the F is left on it. VOM DOT COM. So what are you instructed to do? Clean it out. So yes, you have to physically go to your sink and rinse this out. Aka more touching with your hands. And you should use a mild soap obviously nothing that will irritate the inside of your vagina because then… other problems when you put it back in there. Worst.
My biggest fear / concern is what if you’re out of your own fucking home? Are you going to change this thing in a public restroom? The noise factor is already a problem here for me. Not okay. Next, when you’re finished removing.. oh let me just flush and go out to the sink and clean out my bloody Diva Cup… which takes a minute or so… and oh, now let me get back in that bathroom stall there and re-insert my Diva Cup.. in whatever awkward position I decided to get into to actually figure out how to get this cup inside of myself. Hopefully on the first try, sometimes on the third try, though. And if there’s a line in this restroom, I’m sure all of those other women waiting in line will totally understand what you’re doing… NOT! They’re gonna be like wtf does this weird girl think they’re doing?! Playing with her period? What is she like a 3 year old toddler playing with finger paint? UGH. Ew. I rest my case. Except, unfortunately for you, I’m going to keep writing.
Diva Cup failed me. Every time I tried it. And I always got it in wrong. Which is painful. I always felt it. Tampons I never, ever feel. Maybe because I shove it far enough up there or just a normal amount because I’m normal? … and I never feel it. This thing I feel when I’m sitting on the couch, I feel when I’m working out or walking around even. Not 100% feel it but most of the time I did. Maybe I was hypersensitive to knowing it was there. But with a tampon, I don’t forget that I have my period. Like I know in about 2.5 hours I’m going to have to change that thing. Just inherent knowledge… and I never felt it. So Diva Cup, I’m just NOT A FAN.
I don’t want to ever have that feeling where I’m like OMG I’m sitting in the middle of a meeting or somewhere that I’m not close to a bathroom or worse, where I won’t be able to access a bathroom for an extended period of time and feel a leak. Like any girl that has ever felt that…. which is EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU!! KNOWS! That it is THE WORST FEELING EVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! If you think it’s not, you’re a fucking liar and I don’t think you have actually ever menstruated.
Further, I have no reason to ever try to use this product ever again. I do not recommend it if you have no particular reason (environmentally friendly chick, allergic to tampons chick, TSS aware chick). Those girls, I think maybe you’d like to try it out and this could potentially be a better solution for you… that is, if you’re willing to deal with all the downsides of it. But maybe those aren’t that bad of downsides since you’re usually downsides are WAY worse than these anyway… so I guess, Good luck!
One way I think this product may be super helpful is in this scenario: Say you know you’re going to get your period tomorrow. Like you’re a very regular period betch and you know exactly which day you’re going to get it. Unlike myself, when I go to the bathroom some random day and I’m like, “Oh nice! Got my period, sickkkk!!” Ruined another Cosabella thong, but hey at least I got it… better start heavily medicating with Advil to subside the pain. Also, that must definitely have been why I have been such a bitch the past 2 days. Now it all makes sense. Random tangent – sorry. So yeah, if you do know yourself very well, it could be great for you to insert the morning that you know you’re going to get your period to avoid the potential underwear stain if you’re super against a pantyliner or pad or maybe you ran out of them. IDK?
Disclaimer: If you do want to try this product for yourself, YOU MUST WEAR A PANTYLINER OR PAD. I repeat, you MUST. Otherwise, you will 100% leak / stain / ruin beautiful / expensive underwear and I’m not about that life for you, me or anybody!
Disclaimer: If and when you do want to try Diva Cup for yourself, think back to my blog post that you read about it and remember that I FUCKING TOLD YOU SO.
If you have any tips or great success stories that you want to share with me… please, please be my guest. I’d love to hear about your fantastic experiences. Maybe I’m doing something totally wrong and you can change my life and I can try doing Diva Cup your way and I’ll love it and live happily ever after.
Until then, I’m team tampon. Signing off as I live out the rest of my menstrual cycle. Until next month, betches…
So, this is kind of cool news – have you heard of a website called TimeOut New York? Likely. They keep you updated on what’s going on in cities all over the world everyday, every week… they provide news, give reviews, provide lists of “the BEST ____________ in NYC.” And I’m about that life.
Anyway, I was accepted into a group of 40 New Yorker’s who write reviews for places, events, restaurants, venues, museums, cultural experiences, etc. all over New York City. We’re called Time Out Tastemakers and we have to wear a badge that says it everywhere we go! I’m kidding about that, obviously.
But it’s really legit, I write verified reviews, provide info, updates & photos on the Time Out website for places I’ve visited in NYC. It allows me to go to places I would maybe have not visited and share my wealth of information to the public about my favorite and least favorite places. #TOTastemaker
The founders started giving out a weekly award for “Tastemaker of the Week” and I won the first week ever!! I don’t usually win things so I felt pretty stoked with that small honor. If you get their newsletters, take a look for places I may have reviewed. If you don’t, you can sign up by entering your email on the website here.
The last time I purchased a backpack, I was in college, it was from The North Face and I was the coolest kid looked like every other kid on campus. That charcoal & pink backpack traveled throughout Europe and all over the USA with me; I do still love and wear it — but I needed to bring my backpack game to a more chic place.
Enter my BFF, @Kaitmills who sent me a photo of her new Herschel backpack asking if it was “chic enough” to wear to a fashion/hospitality interview in NYC? Le DUH! How fab does she look? After I realized how undeniably cool backpacks are again (from her chic fashion girl selfies below), I decided to go after these new Everlane packs I had been lusting after!
Everlane has evolved into one of my favorite new brands. I read a tag line on The Fader recently about how “Everlane turned hipsters basic,” and I kinda love that because I ❤ hipsters and I ❤ basics (the clothes, not the persona). As seen in my previous post about their “Everyday Anorak”, Everlane manufactures high quality clothing & accessories at affordable prices. They cut out the middle man and consumers reap the benefits. After weeks of awesome social media hype & presence, Everlane launched these great backpacks. I watched their Snapchat story everyday (blushing) – but you all know I’m obsessed with social media anyway.
Very versatile! I purchased in the larger size, obv because I carry FAR too much (but the mini is awesome too!) in the “Reverse Denim & Black Leather” color.
Love the black leather detailing! This pack has pockets for all things; fits a MacBook, iPhone, side pockets for a water bottle/whatever else you want easy access to, inside pockets, front zipper pocket for small items, etc. Highly recommend this item for back to school or around the city or anywhere your travels take you. Gets endless compliments and “where’d you get that bag?” comments galore!
Wölffer Estate Vineyardrecently launched a luxurious extension of their brand, the Wölffer Kitchen– serving “modern American cuisine with a Mediterranean influence,” basically it’s very wine-friendly food. I love spending days and weekends in Sag Harbor – needless to say, we went back for the Rosé Sangria more than once. I’m actually obsessed with the Rosé Sangria – it is not sweet like most sangria’s, it’s super fresh & just amazing. 🌸👌 See our favorite bartender Michelle for some delicious & unique cocktails! Also highly recommend the Caesar Salad – I know, how boring right? WRONG! It’s different & delicious – the croutons are awesome parts of crunch yet not too hard, dressing is perfect, lettuce is fresh, crisp and buttery.
There is a beautiful mural painted on one of the walls, and the hostess stand is decorated in the beautiful pattern of the “Summer in a Bottle” varieties. There is outdoor seating available in the newly renovated space as well. Perfect for dining or to enjoy cocktails! Don’t worry – despite what they say, the rosé is not going to run out. But just in case – get here soon!
Another highly recommended location, well-done by Wölffer Estate!
Recycling Clothing has been something I’m very interested in lately. I wrote last week or two weeks ago about Poshmark, an app to buy & sell clothing & accessories. Another way to do so is through the recycling program that eco-friendly, yet chic clothing brand, Reformationhas launched.
Scented Candles: LAB: Yuzu Ginger. Found on a counter at a friend’s house and it’s delightful.
Folk Rebellion– a super-cool brand encouraging people to unplug and live a device-free life. Portions of their proceeds are donated to the Children & Nature Network. Included in with the awesome tank I purchased, quoting, “Let’s Wander Where the Wifi is Weak” was a small green strawberry box, which later became the BEST part of my purchase. Included with the box were instructions to use…
Up-cycle the box to hold your devices and the devices of your friends and family. The idea is to put your devices into the box so you aren’t so wrapped up in them during dinner, or a movie/tv, or while just hanging out together. Enjoy the time being together instead of being glued to your phone and other devices.
Put a masque on my hair last night before going to bed – it’s basically a thick conditioner and I didn’t wash it out – so yes it gives a little bit of a greasy feeling before bed – but WHATEVER. Caked it on there – slept – woke up in the morning & did not shower until this evening. Hair feels phenomenal. Try it – highly recommend this type because I LOVE the way Oribe smells.
Lastly, a little bit of #INSPO to help get you through whatever it may be that you’re going through.
I frequently ask for and love to hear recommendations for books to read. However, I’m not one for the sappy romantic novel, or the famous author who writes 15 of the same style murder mysteries. I like reading and learning and hearing the perspectives of others, inspiring others and encouraging others to do well.
That being said, I’ve read a few books lately that I figured I would pass on to all of you fabulous people – most are geared toward women so bear with me, guys!
EVERY GIRL SHOULD READ THIS BOOK IMMEDIATELY. Especially if you’re in your 20’s/30’s and have no idea about anything regarding finance or money. Even if you do, Lapin has an edgy, bitchy way of breaking it down into terms that any real betch can understand. It’s liquid gold. Or solid. Whichever you prefer.
I’m currently reading this book for the 4th time fully through (that’s why the cover is so dirty). I constantly reference the quotes and stories and quick (sometimes 1, 2, 3 page) “chapters” for hysterical advice. Makes me feel chic whenever I’m feeling basic. Parisians do it well and you can do it just as well as soon as you start taking yourself less seriously.
Literally mind-blowing. For any of you psychotic OCD “cleaners” out there or for people like myself who are traditionally on the “hot mess express,” this book is for you. I read it in less than 24 hours. It’s quick and gives legit tips to declutter your life and starting with the space you live in. Sounds silly but the perspective is much clearer than most people can relate to.
One of my favorite bloggers recently debuted her 2nd book giving lifestyle tips, tricks and advice for your home. My favorite part is that she gives ideas for every room or space in the home for both homeowners and renters (me). Great photos and ideas throughout – can be read in an afternoon, but awesome to reference.
Honorable mention to Kim Kardashian West’s #Selfish by Rizzoli. 😉