(EX) Boyfriend Tee

(EX) Boyfriend Tee

Borrowing the “look from the boys” has been a lasting trend over the past few seasons. A trend that many people LOVE and others feel as if they can’t really get into. I’ve heard females say things like, “I’m a girl and I have a body that I want to show off. Why would I hide it with huge long coats and oversized everything’s?” I shutter. Because they’re awesome. And because – why not?

Do you feel like you can’t wear menswear coats? Are boyfriend jeans just not your style because you would look like the actual boy? Not into Oxford shoes or loafers? Those are problems, here’s my easy solution to them.

Borrow his t-shirt!

This is a fantastic idea because of the following things:
1. It’s free
2. It’s usually worn in and very comfy
3. It’s never gonna be that tight (unless your boobs are huge) – sorry!
4. It will smell good (although not guaranteed). Could just smell – woof.

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This one is “borrowed” alright — AKA never being returned — and it’s my favorite! Perfect shade of grey (no shade intended)!

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THIS IS A SCARY SELFIE! AHHHH creep. & seatbelt – lol

Wearing with black! As if I would wear it with another color. Shown 2 different ways. On both occasions paired with a high waisted black pencil skirt from previous Altuzarra post. It’s important to pair your exbf tee with a dressier skirt to tone down the dressiness of the skirt and to keep the overall boyfriend look more feminine although still super casual.  Shoe choices are my “half and half shoes” – meaning I’m wearing slip on sneakers for my commute and heels during the day or for after work drinks (you can’t see them anyway). TOP Photo: Tom Ford Sunglasses. J. Crew Boyfriend Blazer. Gucci Soho Leather Disco Bag. Eddie Borgo necklace. BOTTOM: Amazing necklace from SHU Salon in Charlotte, NC. Sandro sweater. Chanel #99 lips. #SweetSeatbelt!

Also try pairing with black skinnies or medium rinse jeans, serious moto boots and a black moto jacket for an edgier look!

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Indecision, Clothes Edition.

Tucked or untucked? Tied or loose? Black or brown? This one or that one? Left or right? Over or under? Jacket or no jacket….maybe sweater? Ugh, it’s so hot out though!!

Indecision with what to wear (amongst many other things) is my biggest asset/flaw/major waste of time. I’m constantly asking for opinions from others, and after they tell me it “looks good,” I continue to change my clothes. 3-7 more x’s… They obviously just want me to finish getting ready because I take basically forever to get dressed when given the opportunity.

Like many women, I have the ability to accidentally wake up 45 minutes later than usual (for work) and still arrive earlier than I could have on a day I woke up on time, even early.

So this means…poor time management while getting dressed and ready? Poor dress/attire prep? Whatever – nobody even knows the difference. People who are similar to me know the difference… but the general public (ew) does not.

Point is…if you’re spending time, you may as well get it together completely.

For dressing/styling myself & others, I’m extremely honest. So if I tell you “it’s appropriate” or “it looks great,” trust. Unless you’re just uncomfortable, then change. Simple.

A Few Rules of Thumb…

1. Always keep your hair down unless it absolutely needs to go up. Even after that, take it down. Some waves in your hair look great if you can put them back in a small clip (for when you have a crease or bump in your hair).

2. Black is always slimming (for when you’re having a “fat” day). Also, people notice it less… or, even better, remember it less – so it’s great for going under the radar.

3. Don’t listen to anybody but yourself. Trust yourself. Whenever I want to wear something questionable and a friend advises against it, but I wear it anyway – I get a lot of compliments. Maybe it’s in my head, but it definitely happens.

4. Dress appropriate for occasions. I’m a major disturber of peace. Sneakers with a very dressy dress to a very divey beer bar? Perfect. Casual the crap out of an awesome dress. You can totes repurpose a dress you’d likely not wear again because of photos you are in or because you feel like don’t have a place to wear it…. YOU DO!

5. Remember to get back what you lend out! Nothing worse than going to grab the perfect blazer you need to tie your outfit together and it isn’t right there hanging in your closet. And you remember your bestie has it and she’s away for the weekend. Bummer.

6. Be willing to not be so standard. (See, basic betch). I’m def not talking about wearing “bright orange pairs of pants,” Billy Joel…but I am talking about: bold lips and bold shoes. So… “bright orange pair of lips!” ;o) If you’re thinking, “SHOULD I?!?!” Yes. Yes you should. Go for it a little bit.

7. Always go for polished over sloppy. You have plenty of time to be sloppy. In the comfort of your own home. In bed. In front of your family. When you’re 5 years old… Time and place people! It’s always better to be overdressed than under dressed. Because then you’re left feeling great about yourself instead of feeling like shit about yourself. Self-esteem boosters, duh.

Does Anybody Else feel this way? Am I alone on this, or what?!

I legit do not know what I wanna do in my life. How dramatic of me but…Like – how do you know what you like or what you’re good at? I feel like I need to do my own thing. Which is what…? I do not know yet.

Everything will fall into place, eh? I guess so.

Ugh – I just don’t know. I’m currently in a weird stage where I feel like I’m trying to be something I’m not. But I don’t even know what I should be.

Do you ever feel like that?

Dreams of working in the city have come to life and I’m beyond grateful to hold a job in a creative & growing industry.  And network with people as well as be a part of something totally different than what I’m used to. I do feel like I should have done what I’m doing now, much earlier in my life. Now I’m 25 & I’m brand new somewhere.  SO here I go – facing the facts – I’m not going to be doing anything exciting or amazing yet…OBVIOUSLY. But I keep wondering to myself…when is the amazing stuff?!

Maybe I’m being too hard on myself or I’m having too high of expectations. I AM the new girl after all – but it’s because I’m displaced. When you experience a lot of success at a very young age (high level management at 22 years old- yeah, weird) – it is a strange feeling to accept a role that has a different status of responsibility- even if it means changing industries and getting my feet wet somewhere totally different.

I feel like I’m far behind the curve on many levels. Many of my peers are in relationships & getting married, having children and have great jobs that they’ve advanced in over the past 5+ years. And I’m just like alone and starting over and trying to be in NYC but idk if that is really even where I should be or what I should be doing. I feel legit so weird about myself right now. Like I know it’s exactly where I want to be and where I belong. But I’m doing it totally solo so I’m constantly imagining things being different. Like if I had a boyfriend I would hang out with him after work. (Do I even want that?) But instead I just get on the train and go home. Get home late. Wake up at 5:30AM and get back on the train for work. Rinse. Repeat.

This is what finding yourself is all about. If you think this is a complaint then get over yourself and click the X of this screen because it’s really just me thinking out loud and wondering if other people feel this way?

People I know are either tied down or exceptionally busy (SOML) and it makes me feel weird. I feel like a 22 year old stuck inside a 25 year old’s mentality. And it’s bizarre. I guess I’m going to keep dating until I find Prince Charming. Expect ridiculous stories to come from that shit as well. Literally haven’t even been going out in NYC which must change immediately so I can expand my social circle. Also drain my bank account (oof). I don’t know what to do at this point.

Make that money in the meantime, live well, travel often, spend enjoy time with friends, family & people you love as frequently as possible, shop a lot, look pretty. A bestie once told me that her goal is to never leave the house without looking like Blake Lively. That’s a pretty steep goal, but nonetheless a really exceptional goal. I’m going to try it ——– until it’s Monday morning at 6:00 am and I’m late because I didn’t wake up early enough & shitttttttt.

But, as I have always said:

“That’s the beauty of this life…”

…you can do whatever you want. Whenever you want. There are no rules.