Cabana Southampton

Strolling through Southampton last Monday, I came across an interesting and beautifully curated pop-up shop, Cabana Southampton. The “Come Sale Away” sign drew me in….

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Brights!
Brights!
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A Peek Inside Cabana Southampton

Store owner Julie Heller explained that the store is inspired by vintage pieces. There are vintage books, gorgeous artwork, vintage Chanel handbags & jewelry, candles and stationary that are creatively detailed.

Based in NYC as ERA|LUXE, a cult-fave luxury vintage store, Heller decided to bring the shop to where she summer’s in Southampton, NY. The vintage does so well that she wanted to bring in new products from different designer brands that weren’t well represented on the east end of Long Island/Hampton’s.

Everything inside makes everyone that enters want to purchase something – I guarantee there is at least one piece in this store that will “speak to you.” There are TONS of awesome gifts in this shop – things that you’d “never buy for yourself” but you actually will because that’s how fab it is.

The Cabana Southampton Instagram is loaded with beautifully curated photos of products sold in the shop and gorgeous Hampton’s beachfront views – what’s not to love / “like”? The ever popular HASHTAG HAMPTONS gear is placed around the store between books, scented candles & sprays, accessories and perfectly placed artwork/paintings.

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Limited Edition Barbara Kruger sunglasses by Freeway Eyewear // swanky lingerie
#HASHTAGHAMPTONS
#HASHTAGHAMPTONS // Headpieces by Gigi Burris 
#ART
#ART and oversize bags ❤ 

They’re staying open until mid-September so I suggest checking it out if you’re on the east end for any of the remaining weeks of summer! There’s an online shop for Cabana Southampton as well so if your weekends are already full of day trips & cocktails for the remainder of the summer, you can still check out all the goods.

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Things I’m Into

Freesia is a very underrated flower. Peonies and ranunculi are still my absolute favorites, but I kind of like these little guys. Just sayin’…

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The only way to order a Mojito is “skinny” – light on the simple syrup, if any at all (if you’re out) & use stevia if you’re at home.  Always ask for extra mint, ofc.

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Thursday night I went to a website re-launch of fullbeauty.com with my dear friend Danielle. The guest list? Top plus-size models, fashion bloggers, Miss USA – Nia Sanchez and singer Meghan Trainor. Such a positive evening, including makeovers from GLAMSQUAD, fashion show, meeting a bunch of fun people, open bar…

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Pre – makeovers…

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Post makeover MashBooth fun…

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Chiara Ferragni

Not only am I obsessed with taking selfies… I am also obsessed with taking selfies with selfie-obsessed fashion bloggers turned fashion designers. Chiara Ferragni is arguably the most successful fashion blogger on the planet. Her team is responsible for The Blonde Salad. She’s an inspiration to up-and-coming fashion people and writers in general, showing that yes – you can develop a lucrative and successful career, starting with writing and curating your own website.

Major moment with matching sunglasses. Mine, Illesteva.

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Crap from Your Kitchen…

Summer is here & bare feet are a guarantee for every weekend.

Bare feet, sand from the beach, extra sun & ocean saltwater all contribute to that dry skin you get all overrrrr.

Want a really great spa treatment for your dry legs/feet/elbows/arms? Don’t want to go to the spa? Don’t even want to leave your air conditioned place to get a moisturizer that hardly even helps? Being in your 20’s is all about faking it ’til you’re making it. So – here’s my “fake it” to help you look like ya “made it.”

Look no further. Byrdy DIY comin’ atcha!

Ingredients:

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-Organic Pure Cane Sugar (or whatever sugar you keep in your kitchen will do)
-Olive Oil (whatever type of oil you like (coconut) but olive oil is commonly kept)

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Pour oil on to the sugar. It will easily begin to fold together.

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Mix together in a bowl with your hands (or a spoon) and create your oily textured scrub. Simple as that.

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It will turn into a rich sugar scrub that’s good enough to eat… but really.

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Apply/slather all over areas that you’d like to exfoliate & moisturize (legs, feet, knees, arms elbows…)*

*A little bit goes a LONG way.

If you have a facial exfoliation/moisturizer in mind feel free to add the following: essential oils, fresh squeezed lemons, blueberries or any berries for antioxidants, oatmeal… some more simple as pie recipes. Like you don’t need measurements either – just mix whatever you have and hope for the best.

Tomatoes (rich in lycopene) & sugar are great for protecting against UV rays from the sun.

Olive oil, coffee grinds & organic honey is an easy one I’ve done as well. This smells amazing & works well, especially in the morning! It can get rather messy – use it in the shower. (if you’re not into DIY but love a coffee scrub, frank body has got it goin’ on!).

Oats, honey & olive oil is a great mixture for super dry skin as well. Very moisturizing.

So basically, get in your kitchen, find some random ingredients that you may need and make your scrub. Cheap (basically free) and easy! You can use it 2-3x per week.

Indecision, Clothes Edition.

Tucked or untucked? Tied or loose? Black or brown? This one or that one? Left or right? Over or under? Jacket or no jacket….maybe sweater? Ugh, it’s so hot out though!!

Indecision with what to wear (amongst many other things) is my biggest asset/flaw/major waste of time. I’m constantly asking for opinions from others, and after they tell me it “looks good,” I continue to change my clothes. 3-7 more x’s… They obviously just want me to finish getting ready because I take basically forever to get dressed when given the opportunity.

Like many women, I have the ability to accidentally wake up 45 minutes later than usual (for work) and still arrive earlier than I could have on a day I woke up on time, even early.

So this means…poor time management while getting dressed and ready? Poor dress/attire prep? Whatever – nobody even knows the difference. People who are similar to me know the difference… but the general public (ew) does not.

Point is…if you’re spending time, you may as well get it together completely.

For dressing/styling myself & others, I’m extremely honest. So if I tell you “it’s appropriate” or “it looks great,” trust. Unless you’re just uncomfortable, then change. Simple.

A Few Rules of Thumb…

1. Always keep your hair down unless it absolutely needs to go up. Even after that, take it down. Some waves in your hair look great if you can put them back in a small clip (for when you have a crease or bump in your hair).

2. Black is always slimming (for when you’re having a “fat” day). Also, people notice it less… or, even better, remember it less – so it’s great for going under the radar.

3. Don’t listen to anybody but yourself. Trust yourself. Whenever I want to wear something questionable and a friend advises against it, but I wear it anyway – I get a lot of compliments. Maybe it’s in my head, but it definitely happens.

4. Dress appropriate for occasions. I’m a major disturber of peace. Sneakers with a very dressy dress to a very divey beer bar? Perfect. Casual the crap out of an awesome dress. You can totes repurpose a dress you’d likely not wear again because of photos you are in or because you feel like don’t have a place to wear it…. YOU DO!

5. Remember to get back what you lend out! Nothing worse than going to grab the perfect blazer you need to tie your outfit together and it isn’t right there hanging in your closet. And you remember your bestie has it and she’s away for the weekend. Bummer.

6. Be willing to not be so standard. (See, basic betch). I’m def not talking about wearing “bright orange pairs of pants,” Billy Joel…but I am talking about: bold lips and bold shoes. So… “bright orange pair of lips!” ;o) If you’re thinking, “SHOULD I?!?!” Yes. Yes you should. Go for it a little bit.

7. Always go for polished over sloppy. You have plenty of time to be sloppy. In the comfort of your own home. In bed. In front of your family. When you’re 5 years old… Time and place people! It’s always better to be overdressed than under dressed. Because then you’re left feeling great about yourself instead of feeling like shit about yourself. Self-esteem boosters, duh.

Monkey See, Monkey Do. BYE MONKEY.

If Everyone is Doing IT – WHY are we Not OVER IT, yet? 

Personally speaking (as if I ever speak non-personally) – I don’t like things that “the masses” like. Except pizza.

pizza pizza.

I’ve never had a Pandora bracelet, never owned an MK watch (OK, there was that one I received as a gift from an ex and returned – SORRY, Bradley!). I never fell into the Alex and Ani trend (though I do have 1 – gifted, obv and I suppose it’s sorta meaningful at least) and I NEVER wear it. I keep it out for show – in my messy room…

I’m not talking fashion trends – DUH! I obviously participate in those if I like them. I’m talking worldwide, phenomena trends where shit is soooooo accessible that water is a more difficult commodity to attain.

What I’m talking about is a perfectly prepared @Instagram photo.

Why are we not over the fact that people literally put things in specific, unnatural positions to take pictures of them?!?! Just to get “likes” ❤ on them? I’m not talking a detail shot – that’s totes normal. I’m not talking an amazingly beautiful backdrop. I’m talking like setting up a pair of shoes, next to a glass of champagne and a magazine, and your gorgeous new Cartier bracelet. That is fucking weird… because although you can argue that all of those things “go together,” THEY JUST DON’T… and furthermore, why are you positioning all of them together to photograph them to share on your Instagram? Are you a magazine? No, you’re a regular person. And I’m over you. Bye.

Shoes. Flowers. Books. I mean…… c'mon.
Shoes. Flowers. Books. I mean…… c’mon.

 

Great Skyline Background. Purse. Champagne. Magazine. Yeah, because that's very normal.
Great Skyline Background. Purse. Champagne. Magazine. Yeah, because that’s very believable.

I’m just very over this. It’s verrrrrrrry fashion blogger. I guess I follow too many of them, that’s why I’m over it. But like – get a grip. It’s not real. It’s all fake life. I’m done with this rant. ❤

*All photos from a random Twitter handle that I forgot (from very long ago, may not even exist anymore!) sorry for non-creds!

Get OVER It.

I’ve literally told people to “Get Over It” from the moment I could speak. I need to “Get Over It” myself at times. The phases of a breakdown are very extreme. Everything is fine one moment and then the next it seems like the world is actually ending. No, actually. But here’s how you “Get Over It.”

#FBF if I've ever seen one. <3
#FBF if I’ve ever seen one. ❤

This is what goes on…

Freak the F Out

This step is so black and white. You need to get over your initial shock and anger and fear and upset feelings. You literally throw a temper tantrum and get it all out of your system. Sometimes you need to go for a run, CRY, drink a lot of wine, CRY, pout, frown, sing a song, CRY a little more. Whatever it is that you do – it needs to be done.

Come Down

Now it’s time to take a shower, light a candle, take off your makeup, put your feet up. You’ve actually got to calm yourself down and begin removing the stress from your life through meditative practice.

Wardrobe

Dress in all black so that your outfit matches your current state of “dark soul.” Maybe dark grey – maybe. Play it safe and stick with black. You did just have a very traumatic day, after all.

Find yourself, quickly!

Do something to make yourself feel a LOT better. I know it may be your “fault” or you possibly could have done the wrong thing somewhere along the line. Regardless of the situation, I think you should do something positive for yourself to realign the stars of happiness and positivity. This is probably where my shopping problem comes into serious effect. Have a bad day? Go shopping. Have a great day? Go shopping. Have an average day? Go shopping. Have a major freak out session and have no clue what to do, and you’ve been crying for like 3 hours? Get a green tea, go online shopping.

Get a plan together and begin to accept.

No matter what, whatever happened has already happened. It’s time to accept what happened and analyze why it happened. This is where you really learn from your mistakes or rather, your experiences. I don’t tend to think of the bad things that happen as mistakes. Everything happens for reasons in your life – sometimes they suck. But I believe it’s difficult to look back at the sucky situations and say that you have not learned something. I bet you have – even if it was to “never do that again.”

 

After that –

you should sit back and have a cocktail. STAT.

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Contrast Please, No Comparison

dont-compare-pic1People only show you what they want you to see.

Social media, specifically Instagram is a mere glimpse into the life of an individual or business or brand. Some over-sharers give more than a glimpse but rather, a life story. And you want to unfollow so badly but you simply cannot because it’s just too damn good! Either way – what everybody views on Insta it’s not the whole story! Typically, it’s only the good good shit.. OBVIOUSLYYYYYYYY.

Everything we do is posted to Instagram. Like OMG – sooooo Instragram worthy. It’s moderately scary. I’m obsessed – I Insta all the time. However I’m trying to take a step back and understand why I do and realize that I need to relax.

Calm down BETCH, it’s just an App!

I totally get it – that your social reputation seems like the most important thing in the world. But legit – it’s not the instant trip to happiness, fulfillment, self satisfaction and approval. Isn’t that why famous people have so many issues?

Having hundreds of thousands of followers does not mean having hundreds of thousands of friends. OBVIOUSLY.

People upload the coolest things ever on Instagram – because why wouldn’t they?! The more likes you get the cooler you are right?! UM, I guess.

Regardless of what the photo is actually of – it is all that the viewers can actually see. (Unless they’re your BFF standing next to you OK-ing whichever dumb filter you chose, then they know – DUH!).

As I’ve said before, many people don’t actually care about your life, more often than not, they’re just curious. And they stick around just to check up on you – which is weird. These aren’t real friends, they’re “fake” friends.  Your real friends will always be the people laying by your side when you’re in an elevator shaft really drunk, or making you breakfast smoothies when it’s your turn to make breakfast smoothies, or throwing up in an Uber sitting next to you while you’re throwing up in an Uber (right in front of your place), or keeping you in check when you are way out of line.

So remember that shit!

Instagram is not real life. It is just an App.

Insta is just a person’s visual daily check in where they can connect and share the BEST things that are going on in their life with all of their closest friends followers. It’s honestly not an accurate perception of “real life” at all – this app really allows people to make a visually appealing graph, if you will. Ya just receive the bits & pieces – the juicy stuff.

You can “make believe” anything your heart desires via Instagram. Welcome to the land of make believe, people! Instagram = Disney?! Um…..questionable. But I can basically make you believe whatever I want – or at least make you question it. If I uploaded a photo of Bora Bora this weekend (besides my friends who know that I cannot afford plane tickets to Bora Bora) & the fact that I’m not there —- people would probably think I’m there. As long as a #tbt or #fbf isn’t listed in the photo – it’s believable, because it’s on Instagram.

WHAAAAAAAAAAAT? How fucking ridiculous is that? I would receive text messages, emails, comments and the like from people being like… “WTF, you’re in Bora Bora?!” “NO! I’m just testing out how flawed humanity is and you assholes all fell for it.” But I mean – it’s so simple. I’d get a bunch of likes on that shit too probs.

The point is that you can make your life out to seem something very different than it actually is.

Uploading an adorable photo of you and your boyfriend together sitting outside on the end of a boardwalk with your feet dangling off the end, happy as clams from Memorial Day Weekend —— does not take into account the fact that your boyfriend has been cheating on you for your entire relationship and is absolutely OK with that. He really loves you though, he promises. He told me. 😉

What I’m saying here is do NOT believe everything you see! Don’t compare their super cute Instagram / Facebook relationship to your relationship. Yours is better, anyway. They’re not as amazing and cute as they make themselves out to be. I mean, maybe they really are cute in that photo – and sure, yeah – sometimes in reality they are too. But not always. You only see what they’re willing to share. So don’t be jealous of that. Just accept it and move on. Right now, I want you to stop wishing you were that person, or wishing you had that, or wishing you were doing what that person is doing right now. Your life is going to get happier.

Instead of comparing everything I do or do not do to whomever (too many do’s) – I’m going to contrast it. I’m going to continue to live my own way and behave as I please. Let people think whatever they want to and not have feelings about that – shocking, NOBODY. But you should give it a shot too.

Remember this the next time you are scrolling through someone else’s feed thinking (as we are all guilty of doing by the way!!)

“I wish I had their life…”