Bushwick, Brooklyn #NewHood

We just moved in to a new neighborhood in Brooklyn – and so far really loving it. Everyone says Bushwick is “up & coming” which, (for those of you who don’t know) means it used to be very ghetto, has gotten much nicer, but still has a long way to go. I mildly agree but love the character and charm of this very diverse and artsy neighborhood.  The streets are spewed with massive pieces of graffiti art on buildings and garages. As I’m obsessed with taking photos of everything, The Bushwick Collective & other nearby pieces will occasionally make an appearance here or on my Snapchat @ashleybyrdy

Some of my favorite pieces around the neighborhood…

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Cabana Southampton

Strolling through Southampton last Monday, I came across an interesting and beautifully curated pop-up shop, Cabana Southampton. The “Come Sale Away” sign drew me in….

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Brights!
Brights!
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A Peek Inside Cabana Southampton

Store owner Julie Heller explained that the store is inspired by vintage pieces. There are vintage books, gorgeous artwork, vintage Chanel handbags & jewelry, candles and stationary that are creatively detailed.

Based in NYC as ERA|LUXE, a cult-fave luxury vintage store, Heller decided to bring the shop to where she summer’s in Southampton, NY. The vintage does so well that she wanted to bring in new products from different designer brands that weren’t well represented on the east end of Long Island/Hampton’s.

Everything inside makes everyone that enters want to purchase something – I guarantee there is at least one piece in this store that will “speak to you.” There are TONS of awesome gifts in this shop – things that you’d “never buy for yourself” but you actually will because that’s how fab it is.

The Cabana Southampton Instagram is loaded with beautifully curated photos of products sold in the shop and gorgeous Hampton’s beachfront views – what’s not to love / “like”? The ever popular HASHTAG HAMPTONS gear is placed around the store between books, scented candles & sprays, accessories and perfectly placed artwork/paintings.

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Limited Edition Barbara Kruger sunglasses by Freeway Eyewear // swanky lingerie
#HASHTAGHAMPTONS
#HASHTAGHAMPTONS // Headpieces by Gigi Burris 
#ART
#ART and oversize bags ❤ 

They’re staying open until mid-September so I suggest checking it out if you’re on the east end for any of the remaining weeks of summer! There’s an online shop for Cabana Southampton as well so if your weekends are already full of day trips & cocktails for the remainder of the summer, you can still check out all the goods.

Xx

Mansur Gavriel

This bag is MAY-JOR!!!!

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After creepily stalking out specialty stores and their associates since April, I was finally able to get my hands on my very own “it” bag. Mansur Gavriel. Totes (the large shoulder bag, not the “completely, absolutely” type), bucket bags and backpacks. They’re all made from gorgeous, warm Italian vegetable tanned leather that gets more beautiful with age. In glorious color waves. UGH, I just died.

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Bag is so great – you can carry around a palm tree inside of it… weird background imaging…

The Bucket Bag
The Bucket Bag

I purchased the tote because of versatility and wearability – useful and a great everyday staple.

It’s a serious, high quality bag for literally a fraction of the cost of luxe designers. Obviously why everyone wants it. That’s why it sells out before it can be replenished on the shelves.

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Black/Blu color with black exterior and blu interior ❤ Each bag also comes with a small leather pouch that can be attached with a snap closure. Great for storing keys, change, and small items.

MUST-HAVE. I want one in every style and color. Also –  MUST. STOP. SHOPPING. Purchased this beauty through the P.S. Dept app!

(EX) Boyfriend Tee

(EX) Boyfriend Tee

Borrowing the “look from the boys” has been a lasting trend over the past few seasons. A trend that many people LOVE and others feel as if they can’t really get into. I’ve heard females say things like, “I’m a girl and I have a body that I want to show off. Why would I hide it with huge long coats and oversized everything’s?” I shutter. Because they’re awesome. And because – why not?

Do you feel like you can’t wear menswear coats? Are boyfriend jeans just not your style because you would look like the actual boy? Not into Oxford shoes or loafers? Those are problems, here’s my easy solution to them.

Borrow his t-shirt!

This is a fantastic idea because of the following things:
1. It’s free
2. It’s usually worn in and very comfy
3. It’s never gonna be that tight (unless your boobs are huge) – sorry!
4. It will smell good (although not guaranteed). Could just smell – woof.

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This one is “borrowed” alright — AKA never being returned — and it’s my favorite! Perfect shade of grey (no shade intended)!

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THIS IS A SCARY SELFIE! AHHHH creep. & seatbelt – lol

Wearing with black! As if I would wear it with another color. Shown 2 different ways. On both occasions paired with a high waisted black pencil skirt from previous Altuzarra post. It’s important to pair your exbf tee with a dressier skirt to tone down the dressiness of the skirt and to keep the overall boyfriend look more feminine although still super casual.  Shoe choices are my “half and half shoes” – meaning I’m wearing slip on sneakers for my commute and heels during the day or for after work drinks (you can’t see them anyway). TOP Photo: Tom Ford Sunglasses. J. Crew Boyfriend Blazer. Gucci Soho Leather Disco Bag. Eddie Borgo necklace. BOTTOM: Amazing necklace from SHU Salon in Charlotte, NC. Sandro sweater. Chanel #99 lips. #SweetSeatbelt!

Also try pairing with black skinnies or medium rinse jeans, serious moto boots and a black moto jacket for an edgier look!

Mercury’s Back At It

Mercury is going Retrograde (AGAIN!)

Friday, October 3 – Saturday, October 25th

If you’re familiar with my motto on life – it’s just this:

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“Mercury was in Fucking Retrograde” and I’m sticking to it! Has your life been completely messed up over the past few days or weeks? Lots of messed up shit happening to you? I lost my wallet, ID, makeup, phone, boyfriend? Was I more excessively bitchy to you than usual?

“Oh, sorry! Mercury was retrograde last week and I’m just getting over it!” – Me

Excuses, but reality. #BetchesInRetrograde

After a scheduled 1.5 hour private reading in her Brooklyn apartment turned into a 4 hour reading and connection with Rebecca Gordon of My Path Astrology, I left with a new found respect, interest and mild obsession with astrology. The beautiful, highly talented and motivationally guiding Rebecca Gordon, who I highly recommend, who came upon me with high recommendations has given me an experience that I cherish dearly. And that I will absolutely return to again. Rebecca Gordon’s mentor, Susan Miller of AstrologyZone.com has a fab recently updated app for iPhone that I’m also very much into!

Side tracked, obviously. RE-Enter, retrograde. 

After reading this article by Robert Wilkinson, found via this easy-to-read article, I have such a better point of view of Mercury retrograde. The author puts such a happy and positive spin on how Mercury going retrograde can affect us. He emphasizes on what to look for, instead of what to look out for. How to embrace the challenges we’re going through as growth – instead of advice to remain stagnant and not make any decisions, especially big ones.

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Recently I’ve been extremely reception and giving of positive advice about typically shitty situations. Not that the situation during Mercury retrograde is really shit – because you don’t always realize it is – until after the fact…

in REFLECTION. 

We all need a nice reflection period sometimes. Instead of looking at the next few weeks as a standstill – (ex: waiting until October 26 to act upon something) – use it as a time and place to goal-set. To review previous decisions and learn the most you can from them. Get your shit together. Get some ideas flowing. Test them out on the most important person you know – yourself.

Reflection brings reality to a head. “Use it as a bridge between old and new…”

Mercury goes retro in Scorpio (my sign) which prob means something super chaotic. and ultra chic (for me). Maybe new loafers I just bought…

Whatever it may be – I love a little chaos. I cannot wait for the next month ahead. Rehearse. Do Research. Figure out what’s coming in for you mid-November. I’m having a strangely great feeling about heading into this viewed “reversal”of Mercury.

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* I am not an astrologer and in no way do I believe to be one. You know me – just a random betch writing random thoughts about shit that I love. Enjoy or don’t. If I’m wrong, I kind of don’t care. Xx ❤

Vibes I’m Into

1. How to NOT Look like a Hot Mess
Don’t rush into work every day. Leave earlier so you get there on time. Wake up a little earlier. Take an earlier train or subway. You’ll look well-rested and prettier to people passing by when you’re leisurely walking instead of running like a #crazybetch.

2. Officially switching over to hot caffeinated beverages as of today because I like to make weird rules for myself like that. But really, just so I can break them.
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3. The best box to ever receive, ever.

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Relax, it’s nail polish. I know… this color is a fantastic red and I’m obsessed.

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4. P.S. Dept

An iPhone app established in 2012 that’s your personal shopper – it does the research for you. Text it what you’re looking for and a real-life store employee comes back with options at various locations. You are able to simply add to your cart & check out. The personal shopper takes care of it, sends a receipt & gets you on your way! Simplicity. Awaiting my newest addition coming from LA – check back!

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5. Life looks better in black. Much better. Black sunglasses. Tom Ford sunglasses.

Replacement for my Chanel’s. RIP

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I keep things black & white. Mostly black. It looks better. Sometimes red.

Indecision, Clothes Edition.

Tucked or untucked? Tied or loose? Black or brown? This one or that one? Left or right? Over or under? Jacket or no jacket….maybe sweater? Ugh, it’s so hot out though!!

Indecision with what to wear (amongst many other things) is my biggest asset/flaw/major waste of time. I’m constantly asking for opinions from others, and after they tell me it “looks good,” I continue to change my clothes. 3-7 more x’s… They obviously just want me to finish getting ready because I take basically forever to get dressed when given the opportunity.

Like many women, I have the ability to accidentally wake up 45 minutes later than usual (for work) and still arrive earlier than I could have on a day I woke up on time, even early.

So this means…poor time management while getting dressed and ready? Poor dress/attire prep? Whatever – nobody even knows the difference. People who are similar to me know the difference… but the general public (ew) does not.

Point is…if you’re spending time, you may as well get it together completely.

For dressing/styling myself & others, I’m extremely honest. So if I tell you “it’s appropriate” or “it looks great,” trust. Unless you’re just uncomfortable, then change. Simple.

A Few Rules of Thumb…

1. Always keep your hair down unless it absolutely needs to go up. Even after that, take it down. Some waves in your hair look great if you can put them back in a small clip (for when you have a crease or bump in your hair).

2. Black is always slimming (for when you’re having a “fat” day). Also, people notice it less… or, even better, remember it less – so it’s great for going under the radar.

3. Don’t listen to anybody but yourself. Trust yourself. Whenever I want to wear something questionable and a friend advises against it, but I wear it anyway – I get a lot of compliments. Maybe it’s in my head, but it definitely happens.

4. Dress appropriate for occasions. I’m a major disturber of peace. Sneakers with a very dressy dress to a very divey beer bar? Perfect. Casual the crap out of an awesome dress. You can totes repurpose a dress you’d likely not wear again because of photos you are in or because you feel like don’t have a place to wear it…. YOU DO!

5. Remember to get back what you lend out! Nothing worse than going to grab the perfect blazer you need to tie your outfit together and it isn’t right there hanging in your closet. And you remember your bestie has it and she’s away for the weekend. Bummer.

6. Be willing to not be so standard. (See, basic betch). I’m def not talking about wearing “bright orange pairs of pants,” Billy Joel…but I am talking about: bold lips and bold shoes. So… “bright orange pair of lips!” ;o) If you’re thinking, “SHOULD I?!?!” Yes. Yes you should. Go for it a little bit.

7. Always go for polished over sloppy. You have plenty of time to be sloppy. In the comfort of your own home. In bed. In front of your family. When you’re 5 years old… Time and place people! It’s always better to be overdressed than under dressed. Because then you’re left feeling great about yourself instead of feeling like shit about yourself. Self-esteem boosters, duh.

Does Anybody Else feel this way? Am I alone on this, or what?!

I legit do not know what I wanna do in my life. How dramatic of me but…Like – how do you know what you like or what you’re good at? I feel like I need to do my own thing. Which is what…? I do not know yet.

Everything will fall into place, eh? I guess so.

Ugh – I just don’t know. I’m currently in a weird stage where I feel like I’m trying to be something I’m not. But I don’t even know what I should be.

Do you ever feel like that?

Dreams of working in the city have come to life and I’m beyond grateful to hold a job in a creative & growing industry.  And network with people as well as be a part of something totally different than what I’m used to. I do feel like I should have done what I’m doing now, much earlier in my life. Now I’m 25 & I’m brand new somewhere.  SO here I go – facing the facts – I’m not going to be doing anything exciting or amazing yet…OBVIOUSLY. But I keep wondering to myself…when is the amazing stuff?!

Maybe I’m being too hard on myself or I’m having too high of expectations. I AM the new girl after all – but it’s because I’m displaced. When you experience a lot of success at a very young age (high level management at 22 years old- yeah, weird) – it is a strange feeling to accept a role that has a different status of responsibility- even if it means changing industries and getting my feet wet somewhere totally different.

I feel like I’m far behind the curve on many levels. Many of my peers are in relationships & getting married, having children and have great jobs that they’ve advanced in over the past 5+ years. And I’m just like alone and starting over and trying to be in NYC but idk if that is really even where I should be or what I should be doing. I feel legit so weird about myself right now. Like I know it’s exactly where I want to be and where I belong. But I’m doing it totally solo so I’m constantly imagining things being different. Like if I had a boyfriend I would hang out with him after work. (Do I even want that?) But instead I just get on the train and go home. Get home late. Wake up at 5:30AM and get back on the train for work. Rinse. Repeat.

This is what finding yourself is all about. If you think this is a complaint then get over yourself and click the X of this screen because it’s really just me thinking out loud and wondering if other people feel this way?

People I know are either tied down or exceptionally busy (SOML) and it makes me feel weird. I feel like a 22 year old stuck inside a 25 year old’s mentality. And it’s bizarre. I guess I’m going to keep dating until I find Prince Charming. Expect ridiculous stories to come from that shit as well. Literally haven’t even been going out in NYC which must change immediately so I can expand my social circle. Also drain my bank account (oof). I don’t know what to do at this point.

Make that money in the meantime, live well, travel often, spend enjoy time with friends, family & people you love as frequently as possible, shop a lot, look pretty. A bestie once told me that her goal is to never leave the house without looking like Blake Lively. That’s a pretty steep goal, but nonetheless a really exceptional goal. I’m going to try it ——– until it’s Monday morning at 6:00 am and I’m late because I didn’t wake up early enough & shitttttttt.

But, as I have always said:

“That’s the beauty of this life…”

…you can do whatever you want. Whenever you want. There are no rules.