How long does it take you to respond to a text sometimes? You stare and read, re-read, screenshot, ask for help… think some more.
FINALLY, press “Send.”
OK, so – if you’re planning on texting me in incomplete sentences that are not specific abbreviations or current/relevant words, YOU’RE OUT.
“Imma b @ da beach. How boutchu mamii?”
UMMMMMMMM… wait. Excuse me? How do you survive in society? Don’t ever send me a a text again. I don’t understand your 1990’s style of ghetto texting. Actually reminds me of that commercial with the dad saying shit like “mad cool” or “fresh” or something gross. You can only get away with that if you have swagger. Or if you’re very funny. Even then, it’s questionable. Highly unlikely.
This is the EXACT moment when you turn on your “Read Receipts” and “forget to answer” for a few days. He’ll know. Obvi – IGNORED. Obvi- get outta here. You know I’m not texting you back and you also now know why.
This post originally started off as a guest blog, but I have so much to say so it changed to a collaborative post featuring:
a dear friend and fellow “Queen Betch of Awkward Moments” Kelly Nolan (@kellynonoo).
What Can Go So Horribly Wrong When Texting:
What this world is missing is a Webster’s Dictionary for text message responses that can lead to complete awk-ness and mixed signals.
Let me start with my least fav, the “k”.
As the world has evolved to what it is in 2014, so has the “k”. There is now capital k, “K” and lower case k, “k” and if you’re me, you will literally respond to people as “k, capital” or “k, lowercase”.
Here’s the deal: The capital K is more of a hateful response. Like, once you receive that you should feel like you just got shanked. The lowercase k is more of a lazy response – it’s like you want to reply, but the “O” is just a stretch above that “k” and then adding the “a-y”, no way – you’d be too exhausted.
Next, let us discuss the period.
I’m all about the grammar life so like, use them at the end of a proper sentence. Don’t be sending random periods! It messes with both standard English and people’s emotions. If you’re sending a bitchy period that tells me that you, in fact have your period. Or if you’re a guy, a mangina and that’s what’s happening here. If you send multiple periods then you’re also very wrong. You look impatient, like your life is just depending on that person to answer. Pathetic-ness will be sent right along with that text. So, it’s for your best interest to stay away from those dots.
Last but not least is the oh so popular “lol”.
While “lol” is an easy go-to response for just about anything and everything, it is about 77% of the time a lie. Are you really “laughing out loud” when you send that text? When you’re in the bathroom or on line at the grocery store or at work on lunch with your co-workers around are you really laughing out loud for all to hear?
My other issue with the “lol” is that it has become such an easy response that we tend to use it even when things aren’t funny. This also leads to mixed messages! You’re either giving someone far too much credit by making them think they are funny when they are not… OR you’re just hyping up someone who’s already cocky and knows they are funny. So unless you are laying on the floor laughing out loud —try to refrain. And if you are well then hell, we should bring back ROTFLOL.