Hermès – Elixir des Merveilles

Having a signature scent is such a specific desire and once you have it, you’re known as that forever. I’ve been wanting to have one for as long as I can remember. I’m super jealous of friends who have that.

Further explanation: You know when you smell a smell and you immediately think of one specific person because it’s their smell? UGH – yes! LOVE THAT. Sometimes – don’t love that – like especially if I don’t love that person. Woof.

I don’t have a particular scent – I have so many scents & love to mix and match them according to my mood swings. 🙂

Admittedly, I smelled a scent last weekend at a cocktail party and freaked out because I knew the smell but I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. I was having a sensory overload. I knew what it was, I couldn’t put a name to a scent. After a lot of deliberation, I figured out what it was and headed to the Hermès boutique at Americana Manhasset.  I actually didn’t – I wrote it down in my Notes app on iPhone and went 3 days later.


The whole theme of the “Eau des Merveilles” line is of a fairytale. This fragrance “tells the tale of an imaginary journey at Hermès, the feet on the ground, the head among the stars. A modern fairy tale, bursting with charm and mystery.”



Elixir des Meveilles is sweet and smells like sex. It has a deeper emotion of scents than that of the Eau des Merveilles and works well layered on top of it. I loved the Elixir so much so that I bought it without the Eau. They also make an L’Ambre des Merveilles and an Eau Claire des Merveilles. They’re all in the same family and as with many Hermès fragrances, can be layered together for different mixtures.

The Elixir has has notes of chocolate-covered candied orange peel, caramel, vanilla biscuit (vanilla sugar, tonka bean), creamy milk, sandalwood, incense, resins, ambergris, Peru balsam and balsam of Siam, oak, patchouli and cedar.

Seems pretty foody, huh?! I didn’t really want to smell like a baby prostitute or a confectioner’s kitchen so I was weary at first. I was wrong. So wrong. I’m obsessed with the Elixir. It isn’t over the top or foody – but it is definitely sweet. Not as orange as the Eau – much more candy-like.

Elixir des Merveilles is an Eau de Parfum, and it lasts long on your skin. If I was into having a signature scent, I’d want this to be mine because it makes me feel very strong & pretty.

Works well while wearing anything black. This scent brings CHIC to a whole new level and is completely timeless.


Look Ratchet, Get More Attention.

Has anybody had the feeling that they’re being watched? Have you gotten an unexpected reaction from people based on your appearance? After years of personal research from my experiences and those of others…I will say that people approach me more and are friendlier and nicer when I have more flaws.

When I’m exhausted and hungover and look like shit, more people will talk to me. If I look well and put together, less people will talk to me. I’m not talking about like going to an event or a particular function or interview, where you should def dress the hell up. BUT — when you’re at your absolute worst you def get more reaction.

I’m at Boston Logan Airport for a 6:30AM flight last Friday, my appearance resembles that of dog shit, I’m hardly awake, running late for my flight and waiting to go through security. It’s one of those – I need sunglasses on to hide my face and it’s not even sunny out – mornings. I’m with my best friend (who’s gorgeous) – but again, we are both looking rather ratchet. When we first started talking about this subject, we were shocked. Later on – we realized that this is blatantly OBVIOUS for a betch. More people chatted us up on this particularly ratchet looking morning, then we’re ever usually chatted up on any given day.

TSA Agent: “Hey – how ya doing this morning? Ya don’t look so happy!”
Us: “Hungover!” / “Drank too much wine last night!”
TSA Agent: “Oh hahahaha well ya better finish up those drinks before you go through security – can’t bring em with ya!”
Us: Laughing. “Thanks!”
TSA Agent (same guy, later on to another TSA Agent): “Watch out. These 2 are hungover and they’re coming through! Much happier than before!!”

OK – besides the fact that the exchange wasn’t funny at all – thanks for being nice to us! Thanks for joking around with us – it made us happy! 🙂  That’s the whole point – people are much nicer to you if you’re a little bit off your game. If your guard is down and you’re looking ratchet as all hell, expect nice things to come your way. It’s all about PAYING IT FORWARD. If you’re having a shit day – make someone else happy when your’e feeling sad. When you feel stuck – help someone else! We were at a bar the night before – nobody tried to “pick us up,” have any form of conversation or was social with us in the slightest – but we looked good.



Who would’ve ever thought I’d be listing Mother Teresa’s Humility List on my blog? Not me – but then again, I really like surprises!

On the contrary, if I would’ve looked really well – dressed up, hair and makeup done, looking fierce– nobody would have spoken to me. They would have looked, that’s for damn sure. But striking up cute conversation – 100% NO FUCKING WAY. When I look worse, I get more attention then on a typical day. MUCH MORE than when I try hard to look normal.

“I looked like shit at the market tonight and people talked to me and were nice.” Theory, proven. Boom.

People, especially men feel much more intimidated by women that are totally put together and looking great. Especially when it’s women in numbers. This is like scientifically proven, somehow or somewhere…(insert case study here that I’m too lazy to search for). I don’t even want to single out men because I do this to other women as well. Like if you’re a “threat,” I’m not going out of my way for you. If you’re an equal (by way of appearance – I know this sounds really shady & vain) I’ll probably be nicer to you.

I’m sure you also know “those people” though – like they are completely ratchet ON PURPOSE! They don’t give a shit about anything or anyone – they look ridiculous on the reg. And people FUCKING LOVE THEM! I have people like this in my mind right now. Like you usually just look at them in disgust because you’re so over their song & dance. BUT – these ratchets are crowd pleasers!! People love to hate them and hate to love them. Ratchet people get attention because they’re too ridiculous to not watch or pay attention to.

Now, I’m DEFINITELY NOT describing myself as a Full Time Ratchet Betch – BUTTTTTTT I would say that I can fit into that category on occasion… during those occasions – my popularity level goes up with strangers. Also goes up with my besties. Goes down for my parents because they are NOT a fan of my ratchetness. For DEF sure. for 100% def sure. Correlation — people like hot messes? Or at least pay attention to them and are nice to them. Flawed or not, looking like shit and not actually being a heinous looking human being, you’re going to gain some sort of respect.

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