Best Friend VS. Bestie

As many betches know, the difference between a “bestie” and a best friend is MAJOR.

My prob is that I tend to call many people my “bestie” and I just don’t want to give anybody the wrong idea here, so I’ll clarify.

A best friend holds a much stronger responsibility than a bestie. Yet a best friend can always be referred to as a bestie, no questions asked. On the other hand, some besties will never achieve the title of best friend no matter what they do.

Your best friend is that personyou know who they are and they know who they are. You can def, 100%, totes have more than 1 best friend in your life. And in different contexts for that matter. But one thing is for sureeee, they will ALWAYS have the same qualities. And usually in your mind, you know there is a 1st place holder. This person is your soulmate basically. They know you so well – like better than your future husband or wife because they have known you forever and you’ve spent far too much time together.

A bestie can be classified into various categories of people you know. A bestie can be a close friend, a regular friend, one of your betches, and the term can even be used as an endearing comment toward someone you like a lot but aren’t even that close with. WHY THE FUCK AM I WRITING ABOUT BESTS VS. BESTIES?! 

A friend called me out on naming him a “bestie” this weekend and we started to compare. He told me I should make a Vennix Square…. UM?. ?. ?.  Yup. WTF is that? It’s exactly what it sounds like. Brendan is an extremely intelligent individual, however – he is definitely the type who would know where roofies would come from. That guy. 😉 totes kidding, bestie! Whatever – a Vennix Square is the combination of a Punnet Square, Venn Diagram & a Rubik’s Cube. This does not make sense, whatsoever. But in short, he meant a Venn Diagram and I’ll try to explain.

Design & Photo Credit: Brendan Sixer

In fact, his Venn Diagram is incorrect because nothing is actually being compared and should be drawn as listed below.

Bests vs. Besties Venn Diagram * (corrected by yours truly).

I’ll tell my besties everything, but I’ll tell my best friend WHY I told them everything. As always, it’s all about perception.

There’s a difference … and just because I name you as my bestie does NOT mean you don’t qualify as a best friend. You may be that. Or more.

Overall, bestie is simply a term of endearment that’s catchy and easy to use. And I’m obsessed with it.

Quality VERSUS Quantity. Get much less, way BETTER shit.

#QuarterLifeCrisis – I’m going to be a very lonely person with a lot of really nice shit.

“Quality is never an accident, it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction, and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.”  – William A. Foster 

When I try to explain to people how I can go ahead and spend  $49.00 plus tax for a lipstick, they are typically shocked and/or appalled by my behavior. But, what they don’t know is that it’s made by Tom Ford. C’mon. American designer, Tom Ford’s beauty line is beyond amazing. Nude Vanille is to die for. It is the PERFECT shade of nude. I’m telling you – try it – you will NOT be sorry. And if you absolutely hate it – go to the beauty counter and return it. Because it’s good shit – if you’re really that disappointed and really that sad that you spent your $49 on it, they take that AMAZING shit back.


“Rare and exotic ingredients including soja seed extract, Brazilian murumuru butter and chamomilla flower oil create an ultra-creamy texture with an incredibly smooth application. Specially treated color pigments are blended to deliver pure color with just the right balance of luminosity.”

I am 100% the type of person who would rather have very few items that are absolutely amazing and that I am obsessed with than have about 32 items that are just OK and I wouldn’t mind if I never saw it again and HECK, I probably already lost it and don’t even recall where.

This post sounds pretentious. I should start over. 

My name is Ashley and I’m a really authentic person. I like to stay true and authentic to how I feel, what I believe in and what I want. I love myself and my choices. I love nice things. I would rather have nice shit than shitty shit. If the general public becomes obsessed about something, I’m already over it. So when I’m all alone for my mid-life crisis, at least my lipstick will be fucking awesome.