The Anti-Valentine – Gift Guide

This is a gift guide for your bestie / lover who absolutely HATES Valentine’s Day – but still likes gifts 🙂

Let’s be real – not everybody loves Valentine’s Day. You know them… you may love one… you might be one? You might be married to one. Those who chalk February 14th up to, “It’s a Hallmark holiday!” those who say things like, “It’s just a day. It means nothing, we love our partners all of the days, I don’t need to celebrate it with flowers and chocolate and cards people.” I’ve been one of those people!

Honestly, the anti-valentine could simply have had one bad experience associated around the holiday… and reframing their mind around Valentine’s Day could make the day fun again, is totally worth it!

Here are a few ideas of what to get them:

Pottery / Ceramics Class

A fun idea of a different activity to do with your partner or friend – if you Google “pottery / ceramics class” + your neighborhood, you’ll find a studio nearby. I’m linking mine here. And definitely planning on doing this with a galentine sometime soon! Love making pottery.

Franca

Not interested in making pottery / ceramics, this brand Franca, based in Brooklyn has a lot of very cute pieces and I love this one!

FloraBrook

FloraBrook – dried flowers – they last forever! And totally combat the “issue” that “flowers die!” These are already dried & SOOOO gorge!


Cosabella Undies

Not sure if this is anti-Valentine’s Day or not but… who doesn’t like receiving new undies? Loving the below from Cosabella. Use code “NEWBELLA” for 10% off your order. I’m really into this matching thong/bralette/mask combo below! You can actually get the cutie thong/mask for free with a $150 purchase with this link.


The Sill

Beautiful live plants delivered all over the U.S.

Sakara Life

Give the gift of health! Sakara is a ready-to-eat meal plan delivered to you weekly, they also have supplements and healthy options for snacks. You can get 20% off your first order if you use code “XOBYRD

As always, send me a message if you have any questions or need advice about gifting a specific person in your life. <3

xo, Ash

Galentine’s Day Gifting

Love a Galentine’s Day Gift Guide!! Creating one here for you! Lots of my favorite items linked and also in the carousel of photos below!

One brand that I’m constantly gifting to my girlfriends is Glossier! Great for literally everyone who likes a little something special, a little something pink and cute and feel-good!

Photo from Glossier website <3

Some things for the mom of toddler’s or the toddlers in your life…

Some things for the bestie who loves anything very cute!

Some of my faves are the coral beanie; the bust pot (perfect for a person who loves random pieces); the all-natural soap; the coasters! LOVE all things v-day! <3

More Valentine’s Day Posts to follow!

saying “Yes” versus the art of saying “NO”

Giving an explanation is NOT NECESSARY.

You do not have to tell anybody anything. If you’re unable to do something, what’s the problem with just plain “No.” ????

We all have to rush to the conclusion that we need to give a reason. No reason needed. No fucks given.

Maybe you feel it’s courteous, but just don’t. If somebody asks you specifically why you’re saying no, or why you cannot participate or why you’re behaving in a specific manner, and you actually WANT to tell them, that’s a different story. That’s also NEVER the story. It’s always like – I can’t do something and I don’t exactly wish to discuss why but people are always asking me why and/or I feel like I need to discuss why (even if the person I’m talking to does not give a fuck). If you want to spill, that’s your own business and go right ahead and over-share your personal life. Go right ahead. Excuse me while I don’t listen and have to think of some stupid thing to say back to you as I continue to pretend to care and/or not have a clue what you’re talking about because you’re probably making something up. #bogus

You owe the world no details of your personal life. So shhhhhh!!! Don’t feel obligated to share. It is 100% satisfactory & A-OK to say “No” and that’s the end of the conversation.

Person Asking Question: Can you do me a favor and pick me up/stay at work 3 hours later than anticipated/stop being a betch/be my valentine tomorrow?
Wrong Answer Example #1:  No, I can’t because I have to pick my dog up from the groomer at 5PM, I have tentative dinner plans with this guy I met on Tinder at 7PM & I’m likely going to spend the night by myself watching GIRLS & drinking a bottle of wine.
Wrong Answer Example #2: I’m sooooooooo sorry. Can’t! I have a paper due tomorrow and I haven’t started it yet – it’s on the Cold War and I don’t even know how people could be cold in a war that was fought in the warmth. Wait… maybe it was in the cold? Was it in the north? I’m so confused —better start reading but sorry! Hope you find someone or something!
Person A: (Ummmmm….? WTF.)
Wrong Answer Example #3: Yes, I would fucking LOVE to.

Correct Answer: No.

Simple. It’s over. No explanation needed. If they beg, that’s funny. Let them beg. And you already win. So forget the guilt and go with a good old, clear & concise “No.”

“No need to shout, betch!”

beyonce