Get OVER It.

I’ve literally told people to “Get Over It” from the moment I could speak. I need to “Get Over It” myself at times. The phases of a breakdown are very extreme. Everything is fine one moment and then the next it seems like the world is actually ending. No, actually. But here’s how you “Get Over It.”

#FBF if I've ever seen one. <3
#FBF if I’ve ever seen one. ❤

This is what goes on…

Freak the F Out

This step is so black and white. You need to get over your initial shock and anger and fear and upset feelings. You literally throw a temper tantrum and get it all out of your system. Sometimes you need to go for a run, CRY, drink a lot of wine, CRY, pout, frown, sing a song, CRY a little more. Whatever it is that you do – it needs to be done.

Come Down

Now it’s time to take a shower, light a candle, take off your makeup, put your feet up. You’ve actually got to calm yourself down and begin removing the stress from your life through meditative practice.

Wardrobe

Dress in all black so that your outfit matches your current state of “dark soul.” Maybe dark grey – maybe. Play it safe and stick with black. You did just have a very traumatic day, after all.

Find yourself, quickly!

Do something to make yourself feel a LOT better. I know it may be your “fault” or you possibly could have done the wrong thing somewhere along the line. Regardless of the situation, I think you should do something positive for yourself to realign the stars of happiness and positivity. This is probably where my shopping problem comes into serious effect. Have a bad day? Go shopping. Have a great day? Go shopping. Have an average day? Go shopping. Have a major freak out session and have no clue what to do, and you’ve been crying for like 3 hours? Get a green tea, go online shopping.

Get a plan together and begin to accept.

No matter what, whatever happened has already happened. It’s time to accept what happened and analyze why it happened. This is where you really learn from your mistakes or rather, your experiences. I don’t tend to think of the bad things that happen as mistakes. Everything happens for reasons in your life – sometimes they suck. But I believe it’s difficult to look back at the sucky situations and say that you have not learned something. I bet you have – even if it was to “never do that again.”

 

After that –

you should sit back and have a cocktail. STAT.

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White Accessories

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